Taking Back from Porn…Faith

Second in the series, Taking Back from Porn…

Faith. It can be shaken to its core or rock solid, it can disappear completely, be a life raft, seem totally unwarranted, or even justified to the death. Faith is at one end of the spectrum an abstract concept and yet fully tangible at the same time. We allow ourselves to have faith in people, institutions and belief structures. Sometimes we even have faith in things we’ve been taught though we aren’t entirely sure why.

As a person of faith, I can tell you that a believers entire life is built upon a foundation that is less tactile than the chair you are sitting on but somehow more real than that face in your mirror every morning. 

Putting our faith in anything short of total allegiance to God is dangerous for the professing believer. Porn is a threat to many parts of our lives but it will surely destroy faith in anything true, good, positive and healthy. As porn methodically draws a person of faith into its circle of lies, it replaces your faith with fear and your service with selfishness. The benevolent and loving Father you once served has been supplanted by an evil dominator that seeks only to control and manipulate you into dark submission. You cannot serve them both.

Realistically, we don’t put our faith in porn to save us,  we already know it is a faulty practice used to anesthetize wounds only God is able to repair. Trusting in porn is the opposite of faiths purpose, which is to save, give confidence to the believer and allow trust to become deeply rooted in the truth of who God is. Holy conviction allows salvation to be established and faith gains its firm foundation to illuminate the supernatural.

Using porn to heal our wounds is a like applying a band-aid to a mortal wound. 

Faith is the most important component in restoration of a mind given over to porn’s destructive will.

Think about it. We come to Christ through salvation, our faith is pure and child-like. We believe in our new Father and his love and care for us and we desire to be obedient and live in a way that pleases Him. In this we find great joy. We experience the good of this life of service, the kinship we have with others of like faith and we give every part of ourselves to our Savior. Everything is in perfect balance as faith in God becomes our reality, more so than physical life itself, a higher plain is achieved.

The fundamental fact of existence is that this trust in God, this faith, is the firm foundation under everything that makes life worth living. It’s our handle on what we can’t see. The act of faith is what distinguished our ancestors, set them above the crowd. By faith, we see the world called into existence by God’s word, what we see created by what we don’t see…. ” Hebrews 11:1-3 The Message Bible 

That is what we all desire, but not if porn is allowed to breathe. When we use porn we are saying to God that he cannot heal us or understand our hurts, that we don’t need Him and we know a better way. Every step taken toward porn is a step away from God. Restoration of faith is essential in taking back lives once given over to this sin. As we distance ourselves from the deceit of porn, may we become more and more grounded in unshakable faith.

Confess, repent and go the other direction. Yes, it sounds simple and you will probably trip up again along the way. That’s OK, you aren’t back where you started; no, you are closer than ever to Jesus. Keep working, keep believing, keep trusting, keep the faith…He is right there with you.

Let the pain subside and faith arise as you are wrapped in the loving arms of your heavenly Father.

3 Comments

  1. Chris
    I read your post and appreciate the encouragement.
    I found myself today considering the reality of the work world in particular – which translates to the whole world in general. It was a depressing hopeless downward spiral. Since man is inherently evil, no expression of goodness can be trusted from a man or woman especially if unredeemed. Their motives are inherently suspect. If I cannot achieve the spiritual fruits in my own strivings, how can an unregenerate person hope to? So why am I surprised when I feel abused and just a means to fatten their wallet and fill their belly? I should not be surprised. God certainly knows the depths of corruption behind every facade of human existence. Surely sin’s stench permeates every face I see on the street and the millions I don’t see and my own wretched self. And yet, universities churn out eager cannon fodder for this daily onslaught. Where is goodness? Where is peace? It is naught.
    And yet God loves us?? and died for us??? It defies reason.
    Depression alters my view of life. It says to me that I have had my head in the sand and not really faced what the stark ugly truth is. At work on Monday, I asked a question re a project to my boss and it was as if I had unleashed a demon to berate, belittle and baffle me. I felt so angry that I shut down. Survival instinct kept me from telling him to F— off, but I really felt attacked and trounced. My anger spiraled into rage and murderous fantasies then despair. I was back in time to childhood when the same reaction sent me to the comfort isolation and self gratification. It was as you said so aptly ‘ a bandaid over a mortal wound’.
    I have drunk deeply from the dregs of porn and sexual self gratification, so certainly my perspective is skewed, but a deeper more pervasive fear resurfaces over and over.
    I did approach my boss 2 days later and apologized for my attitude which he forgave readily. I was stunned! How could he? Yet I felt the weight of the anvil lift that had crushed me. I was free! Gloriously free and grateful to God for this miracle.
    But not a day later, doubt clouded my blue sky and cynicism rained on my parade. Depression swamped me with the realization that it was all a sham. He could not possibly be genuine. He was not a believer. He must be laughing at my naivete.

    I write to you because you write. You seem to express your thoughts in a flow of healing realizations that grapple with stones of offense you have encountered and continue to encounter.
    Such writing is good and the fact that you have continued shows me it speaks to you as well as your readers.
    My rant above is admittedly a rant. So I understand if you choose to ignore it. I am seeking a solace in the expulsion of lies that have permeated my existence. They need to be thrown on the table and seen for what they are. God has a better way no doubt.
    Thanks for reading.
    Richard

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