Detoxing from Church Culture and Starting Over

I spent nearly 20 years in a church that did a lot of damage to my faith, I call it the “cult church” now. It was a non-denominational church with certain practices and legalistic oppressions that stifled and stunted the lives of many, while a few lorded their power over the rest. I was manipulated into subjection and disciplined […]

Deal with the Sin, but First Remove the Shame

I had someone ask me how we could drive home the fact that using porn is sinful without shaming the individual. Is there a way, even in the midst of habitual sinful behavior that goes directly against what God commands, in which we can show love, respect, and compassion for the person and remain strong in our stance for righteousness […]

Is this how you feel? (read at your own risk)

I spend a lot of time reading stories about various sex offenses. People who are caught with child pornography, pastors with prostitutes, those who have marital infidelity, inappropriate relationships with co-workers, rape, incest, all sorts of dysfunctions. I don’t do this for the shock value, I do it to help me understand a broader spectrum […]